What if changing your mindset could lead you to fulfil your potential and overcome the fear of failing?

Especially with the wrapping up of the phenomenal Apple TV Series Ted Lasso, I couldn’t help but appreciate how the writers ended the show. Spoilers ahead, alert alert! (Also, this will all tie in eventually, trust me!)

The show could’ve had AFC Richmond win the whole league, but instead, they ended the show on the sweet note of coming in second place.

Also, you might be wondering: What’s a spiritual girl like Yinki watching Ted Lasso and footie? The truth is I have a very wonderful partner who introduced me to the show, and as much testosterone there is on the show, I love how the women characters are portrayed with so much dignity and depth. ALSO, I believe that Ted Lasso is a wonderful example of the divine masculine in these times. He’s not perfect, no one is, but he exemplifies the grit AND grace of choosing integrity and learning from experiences over just emphasizing external wins. He is a shining example of alchemising his heartbreak into optimism and trying again, and again, and again.

He is an example of choosing the growth over the fixed mindset.

What is the Growth Mindset? And what is the Fixed Mindset?

I wanted to learn more about the Growth mindset and started reading Mindset by Dr Carol S. Dweck, a psychology professor at Stanford. She explains the mindset for achieving success, which entails stepping into the growth mindset.

Since we were young, we're often told that we either have the innate talent to achieve something or not. This is indicative of the fixed mindset. For example, we say someone is so good at singing or math, and we believe they are just born with it. But actually, if we apply the growth mindset, we can open ourselves up to the possibility that intelligence and talent are dynamic and can be improved.

It makes sense that we fear failure because there hasn’t been much room to experiment and fail in a safe space. Every decision we made, since growing up, having to apply to and get into the best schools, and this started since we were at the tender bb age of 5!

It's hopeful to know that when we apply ourselves and work hard, we can achieve ideal results. Yet, what we often overlook is the importance of staying curious and seeing obstacles as learning opportunities. The growth mindset doesn't only apply to our education and careers but in all facets of life.

The GOOD NEWS IS: Even if we were once in a fixed mindset, we can learn to embody a growth mindset instead of staying in a fixed mindset. I've outlined the key differences between the Fixed vs. Growth Mindset in the handy little table below:

Learning about this has changed my life, especially as I'm working on stepping into the growth mindset instead of being limited by the fixed mindset as an entrepreneur and healer.

As Dr. Carol Dweck explains, “It's ironic: The top is where the fixed-mindset people hunger to be, but it's where many growth-minded people arrive as a by-product of their enthusiasm for what they do...With the right mindset and the right teaching, people are capable of a lot more than we think”

Having a growth mindset allows you to transcend and overcome limiting thoughts, a weak sense of belonging, and feeling boxed in by other people's judgements.

You are more capable than you think!

It takes work, a conscious effort, support and accountability to fully step into the growth mindset. But I really trust that you are on our way, especially since you made it to this point in the article, woohoo, I'm celebrating you!

An Ultimate AHA moment I’ve had is: Choosing the Growth Mindset is ultimately Choosing to Love Yourself Unconditionally

I’d love to leave you with this quote by Ted, "I think things come into our lives to help us get from one place to a better one."

oh, and this one:

Believe.